How to Tips for Lesbian Online Dating

by braniac

Lesbian online dating is quickly becoming a female love phenomenon. Millions of women are looking for their soul mate, and the odds are good their soul mates are looking too. Learn how to create a safe and compelling profile, make first contact, design a great first date, and avoid the common mistakes.

~~SAFETY~~ Your view on love may not be traditional, but that doesn't mean you are immune to the dangers of traditional straight dating. In fact, lesbian online dating sites can be a magnet for unstable, even dangerous women and men. It is all but impossible to be certain a profile is an accurate representation of the person writing it. For this reason, safety should always be your primary concern. Safety tips are added to various steps of this article to help you make wise decisions as you search for your true love. In addition to these tips, please take some time to review the safety articles listed in the Resources section below this article. Your desire for love is strong, but loving yourself is the first and most essential step on the road to romance. Value yourself enough to put your need for safety ahead of your desire for companionship.

~~CREATING A PROFILE~~ After registering your account, the first step to finding Ms. Right online is to create a profile for her to view. Sounds simple enough, right? Mention your profession (in vague terms only), your hobbies, how long you've been out, and what you're looking for in a woman, and the job is done. Kind of. If you're looking for a quality relationship, and to avoid dead-end dating, you must create a profile rich with personality (not personal information), that will charm and inspire personality. To do this, you must make a concerted effort to avoid stereotyping yourself. Creating a profile filled with cliches is a great way to bore the woman you intend to dazzle. Online daters of all orientations run the risk of presenting their uniform, rather than their personalities. Gay and lesbian online dating is no different, though there are certain stereotypes that are so abundant they blend into the background. Profiles weighed down with excessive symbols of gay pride, feminism, lesbianism, or even cultural symbols tend to bore online daters. It's not that any of those issues lack value or significance, but in the arena of lesbian online dating, their popularity has diminished their emotional impact. Instead, talk about issues that are not necessarily related to your orientation. Or, talk about specific facets of those interests. For example, rather than overload your profile with rainbows, talk about your experiences in supporting those causes. It is enough to say that you are or are not openly lesbian. Further mention of pride, without specific details, offers nothing unique to capture a potential partner's attention. WARNINGS: Do not mention your place of employment, or even your specific title in your profile. Also, do not use images of yourself that exist elsewhere on the internet with the same name. Doing so will make it easy for stalkers to quickly discover your personal information. See the resources section below this article for more information.

~~MAKING FIRST CONTACT~~ Everyone has a unique approach to romance. Some choose to take the bull by the horns and grab the attention of those who catch their eyes. Others are more reserved and would rather wait to be approached. Waiting for interested suiters to approach you might work in heterosexual online dating, but lebsian online dating isn't always so easy. You may find that, without taking the initiative, time passes rather quietly. Because gender roles are undefined in the world of gay romance, the great female tradition of waiting for someone to express interest in you simply doesn't work... or at least not well. If you are comfortable waiting around for some lovely lady to notice you exist, making first contact isn't necessary. However, if you really want to take a step towards romantic bliss NOW, you'll have to be the one stepping out. Making first contact isn't difficult and it shouldn't be terrifying. If you have reviewed profiles and are only approaching women you feel you have a common interest with, talking to them should be fairly easy. Use familiar common interests as an ice breaker. Don't worry if you don't immediately receive a response. Some users may not be checking their email regularly. Other user are simply inactive and have yet to be removed from the lesbian online dating system's database. Just keep trying and eventually you will get a response.

~~KEEP CALM~~ When love finally strikes, you may be tempted to throw yourself headfirst into the winds of romance. Unfortunately, your partner may not be quite as comfortable taking things fast. This doesn't mean she won't eventually find herself head over heals in love with you. It just means she isn't willing to fall head over heals in love with everyone. Try to keep calm and a bit reserved. Not only will this prevent you from spooking your new love, but it might actually make her more interested in becoming the aggressor. Women love a challenge. Giving her everything you have from the beginning leaves no mystery to keep her interested.

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