How to Word Wedding Invitations with an Online RSVP

By Vera Leigh

Updated September 22, 2017

In the already sometimes puzzling and usually stressful world of weddings, you want to simplify. Cheers to you. Simplicity does not have to be just wishful thinking or an unrealized goal. Consider sending wedding invitations with an option for your guests to RSVP online. You are likely to be more organized and less stressed when RSVPs go straight to your inbox. Best of all, you have the partial approval of Peggy Post.

Determine wedding formality. Peggy Post, great-granddaughter-in-law of the late etiquette queen Emily Post and a director at The Emily Post Institute, writes on her website that wedding invitations are not acceptable as emails and online RSVPs are -- but only with an exception. Post suggests a sentence at the bottom of a printed response card that reads something like: "You may also reply by way of our email address, which is"

Evaluate guests' tech knowledge. You do not want to send a wedding invitation that allows guests to respond only via email if you don't know whether each guest has an email account. Consider this suggestion from "If you chose not to include response cards, it is acceptable to offer the option to RSVP online as an alternative to a handwritten reply on your reception card as shown in the example below: RSVP by way of handwritten reply or at"

Go completely live cautiously. Unlike Post, the writes that if your wedding is "small and informal," it is OK to "to give guests the option of replying only via an online response," but you must be certain that your guests have personal email accounts. To do this, include a sentence about online RSVPing on your enclosed reception card, the website recommends. An example: Please RSVP by replying to